Ways We Can Work Together
The Therapeutic Relationship
'In my early professional years I was asking the question: How can I treat, or cure, or change this person? Now I would phrase the question in this way: How can I provide a relationship which this person may use for his [or her] own personal growth?'
Research findings indicate that the strength of the relationship between you and your therapist is one of the most important factors in successful therapy—even more important than the therapy approach your therapist uses (Lambert & Barley, 2001). A strong and safe therapeutic relationship facilitates free expression, deep empathy for your experience, and acceptance all of your feelings.
The central aspect of my work is building a trusting, non-judgmental therapeutic relationship with you, where you can feel safe and connect with your inner wisdom. You know the complexities and intricacies of your life better than anyone else. This is why I hold great respect for your wisdom about your inner world. I support you by offering my knowledge, based on my professional training and clinical experience. We can work collaboratively to address your needs in a way that is most helpful to you.
'The good life is a process, not a state of being. It is a direction, not a destination.'
Our feelings, thoughts, and behaviours are influenced by the environment surrounding us and also by our internal landscape. Our inner world colours our experiences and shapes our interpretations of ourselves and others. In individual therapy, you may be seeking to:
Resolve issues from your past that are ruling your present
Learn to confront fear in the service of your wellbeing
Address inhibiting and harmful patterns that stunt your growth
Find a balance between caring for yourself and for other people
Develop more meaningful and intimate relationships—with yourself and others
'We live in the shelter of each other.'
Our early relationships shape our present ones. A person's relationship with his or her partner is often the most intimate relationship a person has in adulthood, which is why this relationship can be especially potent. Your early life experience and patterns can be stirred up without your conscious awareness of how these relate to your current relationship difficulties. You and your partner may be seeking help to:
Feel safe in your relationship, especially when you are feeling vulnerable
Explore how unresolved difficulties from your past impact your current relationship
Understand the underlying meaning of your words and behaviours
Enhance intimacy and connection while developing appropriate boundaries
See and accept the complete person in each other
Improve understanding of and empathy for yourself and each other
Young People Therapy
'It is in playing, and only in playing, that the individual child or adult is able to be creative and to use the whole personality, and it is only in being creative that the individual discovers the self.'
–Donald Woods Winnicott
Young people may not have the cognitive and emotional ability to communicate their thoughts and feelings as easily with words. For this reason, a developmentally appropriate way for some adolescents to communicate is through art and other forms of play. Play and art therapy is a meaningful way for me to carefully pay attention to what your child may be communicating about her or his experience. I have been trained to interpret the symbolic meaning embedded in young people's play and art, communicating with teens about important themes in a way that is developmentally appropriate. Young people express and come to understand themselves through creating art, such as drawing, painting, and sculpting. Art therapy can be useful because it does not rely solely on verbal communication. Art making is a way for youths to communicate through visual and tactile means as well.
A Place to Talk
'When someone really hears you without passing judgment on you, without trying to take responsibility for you, without trying to mold you, it feels damn good. . . .'
Did you just want someone to talk to? For someone to hear you without interruption, without judgment, without fixing or problem solving? A place to talk is just as it sounds, its a place for you to speak to a trained listener about what is going on for you. This service is for people who want someone who is unbiased to act as a sounding board for them. A place to talk is different from therapy because it is not an ongoing commitment of regular appointments and it is does not involve a treatment plan. You can come as needed and speak to someone who will listen with attentiveness, compassion and care. Sometimes, simply being heard is enough.
Online services are a great alternative for people who live remotely, don't have access to reliable transportation, lack available providers, or who may suffer from other inhibiting conditions, such as agoraphobia. These online services support, but do not replace, traditional care delivery. In-person services are encouraged to give you the highest quality care, however, online therapy can be an effective solution for providing the flexibility and convenience of seeing you remotely at a lower cost when appropriate or necessary.